Have you ever
heard of this Mark Twain’s phrase, whenever
you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect?
If so, let me help you reflect what this clause mean and have some second
thought to this. As a person who almost always to question anything, I believe
there is always opposing party to a thing. That there will always be an
anti-matter presents for a matter itself. And for Mark Twain’s, I write some
both alignment and adverse opinion.
Most mentor and gurus as our motivational source have
sold us on the idea of living for the moment. That right now is all that
exists. And that we should only do that which makes us feel good. Or the thing
we should do at time is the thing that realistically can we do over short
period of time. Although this advice is alluring and justifying, it often fails
to produce desirable results in the real world. Actually, in many cases, it
ruins people’s lives.
First thing
first, here’s what I agreed:
For some extend,
procrastinator must be punished with real world.
If daydreaming
and daywandering were your daily ritual, reflecting gives your imagination a
good pause
And that’s that.
Living for the
moment is the reason people do over excessive gaming, leave long lasting marriages,
and lose control over their sustain health. Indeed, time is fleeting. The
present moment barely exists. The moment you become conscious of it, it’s over.
Today is
tomorrow’s yesterday. Are you living today to give your tomorrow-self something
to build off? Will you have momentum tomorrow based on your choices today? Or
are you just putting off needed change until some future day?
When you live
solely for the moment, you act on impulse. Your behavior is the product of
circumstance rather than conscious choice. As a result, you often make
regretful decisions. You’ll choose to delay the fight for what you believe in.
You’ll choose to do relatively easier things because they seem right thing to
do.
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Now comes the
second thought. One of Stephen R. Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
is to begin with the end clearly in mind. In order to do so, Covey invites you
to consider your 80th birthday party. The purpose of the party is for your
loved ones to honor you, to express their feelings, and to toast a life
well-spent.
Imagine you are
the person being honored. What would you like your loved ones to say about you,
and your life? What would you like them to say about your character and
contributions? What achievements would you want them to remember? What impact
would you have liked to make in their lives?
Covey argues we
should start living today with that vision of our own 80th birthday party
clearly in mind. Thus, even when considering the end of our lives, it is framed
by how we will remember our lives. Indeed, living purely for the moment fails
to comprehend the holistic nature of time. The past, present, and future are
not distinct and separate entities. When you live for your past, you
consciously design your ideal future and simultaneously live intentionally in the
present. You fail at one and all are impacted.
You can have any
future you want. More importantly, you can have any past you want. And your
past is what dictates your present. You can be a person you’re proud to be.
So, beware of
the sexiest lie; to live for the moment.
It’s so easy to
justify poor decisions in the moment. It’s easy to break our personal
commitments. Sometimes we can’t control our anger and we yell at our friends or
even family. Sometimes the cookies look too good and we just can’t say no. Sometimes
we’d rather veg than work toward our goals. Sometimes we’d rather sleep-in than
go to the gym. Sometimes we’d rather do relax than give our ass some load.
Once you decide
to live not for the moment but for the sake of moment itself, you’ll choose to
be happy even if you don’t feel like it. You’ll choose to get up rather than
sleep-in. You’ll choose to work while others play. And that’s what I want to
do.
Cheers.
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